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strategy for creating a fulfilling marriage.
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In this week's issue:
Feature Article - “Positive Aspects”
We want to
take this opportunity to share a few insights with you from
the fields of Positive Psychology and the Law of Attraction,
as well as a few tips for how you can incorporate those
principles into your daily lives and your relationships.
Positive
Psychology is a field that focuses on recognizing and
building on your strengths and assets, and on focusing on
positive (or at least productive!) ways of thinking.
The Law of Attraction simply states that your mind
and actions are like magnets—you will attract to you the
very things you think about most.
So, if you want to create a healthy, vibrant
marriage, one of your best strategies is to focus on the
positive aspects of your relationship and your partner.
By doing so, you’ll draw into your experience more
reasons to be connected and contented.
It’s true
that there are times that we get stuck or feel like we’re
in a rut, and it’s during those times that we tend to
focus on are the negative or unpleasant aspects of our
relationship or our spouse.
Those are the times when we need to purposely stop
and refocus those negative thoughts into more positive (or
at least more rational and productive!) ones.
For
example, instead of repeatedly paying attention to the
negative thoughts or feelings you might have, why not ask
yourself “what is going right
for me?” or “what is going well
in our relationship?”
Instead of constantly noticing or complaining to your
spouse or partner about what he or she is doing wrong, or what they haven’t
been doing, how might you change your interactions with
them if you are more aware of what they are
doing (or are doing right!).
What if you spent time every day recounting in your
mind—or sharing with your partner—the things that you appreciate
about him or her?
Doing any
of these things tends to focus our attention on the evidence
of what is good and right in our relationship.
This helps spark more of those positive interactions
and feelings on a regular basis, both within ourselves and
between us and our partners.
These are
key principles in both Positive Psychology and the Law of
Attraction—what you focus on expands, whether you are
focusing on the good, the bad, or the ugly.
If it’s true that “what you think about, you
bring about,” doesn’t it make sense to focus on bringing
out more joy and satisfaction and less discord and
dissatisfaction? Seems
to make a lot of sense, don’t you think?
So, in this
moment, instead of focusing on what you don’t want or what you don’t
like, focus instead on what you do
want and what you do
like. Try to put
yourself regularly in the state of feeling the way you want
to feel—make a choice to feel happy, joyful, loved, and
loving on a regular basis.
When you
clearly visualize the experience that you want to have, regardless of the reality of what you are experiencing
right now, you are more likely to draw more of what you want and less
of what you don’t want into your life.
This is true with all aspects of your life, from your
relationships to your job, and from your health to your
financial situation. As
many wise people say, “where attention goes, energy
flows.”
In closing,
here are the steps to drawing to you more of what you want
in your marriage and in your life:
1)
Be clear about what you don’t
want, but then focus the bulk of your energy and attention
on what you do
want.
2)
Visualize that what you do want is
occurring—get to the “feeling place,” where you create
the emotion of actually having it now.
3)
Expect it to happen and continue to act “as
if” this thing you want is on its way to you.
4)
Focus on the positive aspects of your
relationship, your spouse, and your life.
As you do this, you will draw more reasons to be
positive into your life!
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Other Great Ideas for Designing the Marriage of
Your Dreams
A
Great Movie
If you’re interested in learning more about the Law of
Attraction, be sure to watch the life-changing movie, The
Secret. Now
a worldwide phenomenon, it is an outstanding introduction to
learning how your thoughts determine your experiences.
We’ve heard tales of marriages transformed by what
couples learned from watching The
Secret.
If you haven’t seen it, watch it today and begin applying
these principles in your relationships and your life.
If you have seen it, don’t you think it’s time to
watch it again?
To
order your copy today, visit Amazon
or Barnes & Noble.
We wish you a wonderful Spring.
Until next month, keep focusing on those Marriage Essentials!
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